Holidays!

Wow, it's been a while since I was able to post. We've had a few interesting things go wrong here at the farm, and I had some more reconstructive surgery.

But I'm still in the holiday mood! Oh wow!

One of the forums I read had a question about sending holiday cards. So I thought I'd share my take on that, since for me, this is a wonderful part of the season.

I only send about a dozen cards each year to surviving parents, siblings, and very special friends. But the dozen that I send are special!

I keep my eyes open all the time for Yule cards -- and they may not be exactly "Christmas" or "Yule" cards; one year I found a box of gorgeous blank cards with a painting of a cardinal in the snow on them. (To me, cardinals and snow symbolise this season better than any other image!) One year I found some with Pooh and Eeyore and Piglet and Tigger on them, and so on. And, I don't necessarily find 12 of the *same* card. I just find a dozen cards I like.

On the afternoon of 25th of November, every year, I get out Enya's Oiche Chiun album (that's Silent Night, for non-Gaelic speakers) sit down with a slice of cranberry bread, a cup of coffee, and the cards. I sit down on the couch in the living room, so that I can look out the windows at the woods or the yard depending on whether I look out the south side or the north side.

Sometimes during the year I will have taken a cute, funny, or sweet photo of the animals or a pretty one of the farm or woods, so I print out a dozen small full colour copies. I also make sure to have bought a dozen really lovely Yuletide stamps. I have a dozen "gold foil" monogram seals, too, and my favourite pen.

I write a little note inside each card. I let the music and the view and the snack tell me what to write for each family, if that makes sense. Then I sign each card and tuck it into the envelope with a photo.

When all the cards are done and in the envelopes, by then the Oiche Chiun is over. So I clean a very old vinyl record of "various artists" including the Beach Boys when they *were* boys, Elvis, Bing Crosby, and so on, singing Yule and Christmas music, refill the coffee cup, and address all the envelopes, then stick the flaps down. I put a fancy gold initial seal on each envelope flap, and then the pretty stamp on the front.

By now, the old record is finished, so I put it away again. I rinse out the coffee cup, let the dog lick the cranberry bread plate, and then put on my boots and coat and mittens, and the dog and I walk the mile to the mailbox. Sometimes it's cold and clear, sometimes it's cold and windy, sometimes it's snowing or raining.

As we walk, I sing a very old Yule song called "The Holly".("Oh, the Holly she bears a berry, as white as milk. And the Mother she bore the Son, all wrapped up in silk"... there is also a Christian version of this carol, I think.)

We post the cards, the dog and I, and then we walk back to the house, still singing. By now the sun is setting, and the trees make black lace against the dim grey of the sky. Beside the branches of oak and maple and elm, are the dusky-green brushes of cedar, like embroidery between the lace. All around is the scent of winter, the cold, the odour of woodsmoke, the smell of the cedars, and often, the scent of "wet dog".

And then we're back home, in the light and laughter of the house, and it's nearly suppertime!

I make this into my own special part of the holiday thing. Because the family is fairly spread out, we generally don't exchange gifts. That's why the cards are so very special. Because the cards are special, I make the whole process of sending them special too. This is one holiday thing that I do alone, and if I am not in the holiday spirit because of illness or worries or whatever, then by the time I am done with the cards, and the cranberry bread, and the coffee, and the music, and the walk to the mailbox -- well, by then, I *am* in the spirit and have my equilibrium back.

Pumpkins!

It's pumpkin time! Finally!

Pumpkins rock. They're my favourite veggie, no joke. I like 'em even better than carrots or radishes for eating, or as the kids say for "nomming". (I'm told that comes from the programme Sesame Street -- it was the noise the Cookie Monster made as he ate.)

What pumpkin should you choose?

Well, what are you going to do with it?

It doesn't matter what variety the pumpkin is, nor what colour. What matters is the size. A bigger pumpkin will have less flavour to it, and may be tougher.

How you deal with the pumpkin depends on what you're doing with the pumpkin. For instance, most of the pumpkins people in the US buy are carved for jack-o-lanterns. The white pumpkins were developed to mimic the turnip and tater lanterns carved by people like my grandmothers years ago. The other varieties were hybridised to meet decorating needs, not eating needs. Go figure, huh?

What pumpkins aren't sold for decorating are processed into canned pumpkin, pre-made pumpkin pie "filling", commercially prepared pumpkin pies, and pumpkin seeds.
But guess what, you can do that stuff yourself!

If you are planning to carve the pumpkin for decoration, and are going to use the meat as animal food or compost, then it doesn't matter what size you get. Pumpkin skin, like any squash, is fairly tough. You may find it easier to use small saws, punches, and drills to do your pumpkin, instead of kitchen implements. If you want the pumpkin for eating, then buy pumpkins no bigger than your own head.

When you get your pumpkins home, hose them off outdoors. Let them dry a while. Then decide what you plan to do.

If you will be using the punkin for decorating, then you will probably cut off the BOTTOM. If you are using it as a bowl, you will probably cut off the TOP, leaving the stem intact if you can. If you are just going to use the pumpkin for eating, you will want to cut the pumpkin in half, watermelon-style.

Do this carefully. Pumpkin skin is VERY tough.

Once you have the punkin "open", then you need to get out all the seeds. Pull them out, sqoosh off any pumpkin "string", and put them in a pan of water. We'll get to them later.

Carefully, using a sturdy big spoon -- NOT a knife, and not some silly "pumpkin scraper" from a kit, scoop out the pumpkin guts.

*If you are not going to use the pumpkin, but only the insides, then you would cut the pumpkin into slices, again melon-style, and with a sharp knife, going slowly, you would peel the pumpkin.

Next, rinse off the guts. Make sure you have gotten all the seeds out, and gotten out any of the "slimy" bits. Slimy bits aren't bad or rotten, they're just the parts where the seeds were attached.
Put the guts into a pan and barely cover with water. Turn on the heat to the absolute lowest setting, and leave it alone for a while. You will want to check it every now and then, to be sure there's still water in there. Eventually, the guts will change to a deep rich golden orange (about an hour or two, depending on how much you've got.) At that point, turn off the heat.

Meantime, you have your hollowed out punkin now!

If you're using it as a serving bowl, then go around the inside again and scrape carefully. Remember to leave the BOTTOM fairly thick and unscraped. Slide the pumpkin onto a baking pan; later, half an hour before serving, you'll put it into a 300 degree oven and bake it for 20 minutes to soften it -- but be careful, you don't want it so soft that it won't hold the soup you're ladling into it!

If you're using it as a jack-o-lantern, then go over the inside again, scraping very carefully. You want the pumpkin to be fairly thin, because this makes it much easier to carve your designs.
Once you're finished with the inside, rinse the punkin and dry it again.

Set it on a sturdy work surface, and with a marker, trace your design. Or, take a printed design and lay it on your punkin, taping it in place. With a toothpick or a large sewing needle (like a darning needle) go over the design, punching in carefully -- like making a "connect the dots" in reverse. Take the pattern off, and very lightly dust over the punkin with flour. This will make the dots stand out so you can see them.

Now, using a sharp knife, small saw, punch, and heck I've seen people use their craft drills like Dremel tools -- now cut out your design. Be very careful, and supervise small children. Please!

It's traditional to use candles stuck into a pool of their own melted wax to light your lantern. But I find it more practical to use votive candles in glass holders, or little tiny lights sold for this purpose. I mean, come on, look at the size of my dog, and calculate the average windspeed of her tail wag.... Little lights are safer than candles sometimes!

Punkin Seeds
Now... remember your punkin seeds? Clean 'em good, get all the slimies off them, and rinse them. Bring about 2 cups of water to a boil, stir in about 4 tablespoons of kosher salt and maybe a sprinkle of seasoning salt. Put the seeds in that. Leave them alone for 2 hours. After two hours, pour the water off, spread the seeds on a baking sheet, and roast in a very slow oven for four hours.
OR
After you pour off the water, heat a heavy pan on the range, pour in about two tablespoons of your favourite oil -- barely enough to cover the bottom of the pan -- and drop in your seeds. Stir! Stir, stir, stir! When the seeds begin to sort of "puff" and "pop", you are done. Turn off the heat, cool the seeds, and seal them up in a jar or bag for snacks.

Note -- if you are doing this to make birdseed or small animal seed, don't use the seasoning salt, and cut the kosher salt back to two TEASPOONS.

Preserving Punkin
After you cooked up all your punkin (see above) and cooled it, you'll need to strain it. If you have a fine seive or colandar, use that. If yours isn't so fine, just lay a piece of muslin, or cheesecloth, in the bottom of the colandar and drain that way. Save what you drain to water the houseplants with. It makes them happy.

Once your punkin is drained, you can have some fun, mooshing it up with your hands. Or you can use your blender or food processor. Hands is more funs, as my Nana used to say.

Once it's drained, can it as you would jam or jelly. Or, you can put it into zip-top bags to freeze.
But what are you going to "do" with your punkin? Well....

Pumpkin Soup

Pumpkin Bread

Pumpkin Cookies

More rain??

For goodness sake.... I'm starting to feel as if I live in a rain forest or something!

But at least today it's just cloudy... no rain *yet*.

I've been playing with a worm farm a little, and doing indoor chores like washing and rehanging curtains and stuff, and getting my gear ready for deer hunting in November.

I must say, I'm sort of half-looking forward to that, and half-not. I mean, I love the taste of venison, but oh my, we'll have to butcher and pack the meat. I love the cool crisp smell of November in Missouri, but oh my, I'll have to be out there awfully early in the cold! I want to make Cat and Lynk some mittens out of the deer hide, but oh, my, I'll have to tan and work the hide first...

Talk about ambivalence! But... In the end, it'll be worth it and it'll be nice to look at packages of jerky in the pantry, and packs of yummy steaks and ribs and roasts in the freezer.

Now if the deer will just co-operate. You know, some years I am totally convinced that Mizzourah Whitetail Deer have digital calendar watches. They know the exact date that firearms season starts, and they know to the second what shooting hours are. I sometimes think they synchronise their watches so that from opening day onward, they can be sure to hide for the duration of the season!

I bet they sit around playing cards in the caves or the deep woods, and laughing about hunters. You know, sort of like that cliche' black velvet painting of the dogs playing poker?

But I am determined to outsmart them again this year and if not bring home the bacon, at least bring home the venison!

More rain and more and more....

I like rain as much as the next girl, but I'm beginning to feel like the old lady from Scotland:

Tourist: How long has it been raining here anyway?!

Old Lady: Weeel, this week 'tas only rained since Sunda. An' last week 't only rained from Sunda to Saturda.

I know how she felt! That's about how long it's been raining here. I haven't been able to work on getting my garden beds ready for next spring, and I haven't been able to start putting together my banty coop yet, partly because I'm too scared to run the saw when the ground is wet, and let's face it, I can't exactly cut parts in the kitchen, can I?

So I've been doing other things.

When I posted the story of Jack o' Lantern, my family reminded me there are a bunch of traditional things that people never do or teach their kids anymore. That includes the little songs and fingerplays that I taught all of them as they grew, and that they now teach their kids or the kids they babysit.

What happened to all the magic that used to permeate childhood? What happened to fairies and dragons and magical coins and little creatures who hid in the sand and granted wishes? What happened to little old women who swallowed flies or spiders who climbed water spouts?

The emphasis lately seems to be on killing things or blowing up things or otherwise destroying things. But it wasn't always that way, and it doesn't have to be. I wouldn't presume to go into the psycho-social implications of today's images on today's children, but I will say this: Gentleness, laughter, and love, are never out of place or out of fashion.

Some people may blame the loss of these old-fashioned images on the advent of television and computers and video games, but that's nonsense... we have all those things at our house, and we never forgot the magical things of childhood. Perhaps these things may bring back some of the wonder of your own young times. Perhaps you can use these things to amuse younger brothers and sisters or the children you babysit for. And perhaps if you have children of your own, you will pass these little things along to them, so that the magic and the wonder will not be forgotten.

Here are words and titles, and if you don't know the play that goes with some of them, you can always look them up online and chances are, you'll find a video for them to teach you, so you can teach others.

The Old Woman Who Swallowed a Fly
There was an old woman who swallowed a fly – but I don't know why she swallowed the fly. I guess she'll die!
There was an old woman who swallowed a spider – it wiggled and jiggled and tickled inside her.
She swallowed the spider to catch the fly.... but I don't know why she swallowed the fly. I guess she'll die!
There was an old woman who swallowed a bird – Absurd! She swallowed a bird!
She swallowed the bird to catch the spider that wiggled and jiggled and tickled inside her.
She swallowed the spider to catch the fly.... but I don't know why she swallowed the fly. I guess she'll die!
There was an old woman who swallowed a cat – Think of that! She swallowed a cat!
She swallowed the cat to catch the bird,
She swallowed the bird to catch the spider that wiggled and jiggled and tickled inside her.
She swallowed the spider to catch the fly.... but I don't know why she swallowed the fly. I guess she'll die!
There was an old woman who swallowed a dog – What a hog! She swallowed a dog!
She swallowed the dog to catch the cat,
She swallowed the cat to catch the bird,
She swallowed the bird to catch the spider that wiggled and jiggled and tickled inside her.
She swallowed the spider to catch the fly.... but I don't know why she swallowed the fly. I guess she'll die!
There was an old woman who swallowed a horse... She's dead, of course!

~~~~~

The House That Jack Built
This is the house that Jack built.
This is the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the maiden all forlorn who milked the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the man all tattered and torn who kissed the maiden all forlorn who milked the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the priest all shaven and shorn who married the man all tattered and torn who kissed the maiden all forlorn who milked the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the cock that crowed in the morn that waked the priest all shaven and shorn who married the man all tattered and torn who kissed the maiden all forlorn who milked the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
This is the farmer who grew the corn that fed the cock that crowed in the morn that waked the priest all shaven and shorn who married the man all tattered and torn who kissed the maiden all forlorn who milked the cow with the crumpled horn that tossed the dog that worried the cat that chased the rat that ate the malt that lay in the house that Jack built.
And this.... Is Jack!

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Soldier, Soldier, Will You Marry Me?
Verse One:
Oh, Soldier, Soldier, will you marry me, with your musket, fife and drum?
Oh, no, fair maid, I cannot marry you, for I have no shirt to put on.
So up she ran to her grandfather's chest
And found him a shirt of the very best.
She found him a shirt of the very, very best
And the soldier put it on.
Verse Two:
Oh, Soldier, Soldier, will you marry me, with your musket, fife, and drum?
Oh, no, fair maid, I cannot marry you, for I have no pants to put on.
(Continue as above)
Verse Three: The soldier needs stockings
Verse Four: The soldier needs boots
Verse Five: The soldier needs a tie
Verse Six: The soldier needs gloves
Verse Seven: The soldier needs a hat
Verse Eight:
Oh, Soldier, Soldier, will you marry me, with your musket, fife and drum?
Oh, no, fair maid, I cannot marry you –
For I have a wife at home!

Here is a second version of the Soldier Song:
Oh, Soldier, Soldier, will you marry me now, with a hey, with a ho, with the sound of the drum?
Oh, no, fair maid, I canna marry you, because I have no pants to put on!
So she ran to the shops as quick as she could run, with a hey, with a ho, with the sound of the drum.
She bought him a shirt of the very, very best – "Now here, my small man, put this on!"
The song continues the same way; this is just another version that I learned from my granny.

~~~

Skinna Marinki Dinki Dink
Skinna marinki dinki dink, Skinna marinki doo (pretend to strum a banjo)
I love you, I love you (hug yourself)
I love you in the morning (Make a big sun-shape above your head)
And in the afternoon (make a round shape in front of you)
I love you in the evening (make the shape at tummy-level)
And underneath the moon! (Swing the round shape up over your head)
Ooooh, skinna marinki dinki dink, Skinna marinki doo!
I love YOU, I DO!


Something in My Pocket
I've got something in my pocket (reach into a pocket)
It belongs across my face (pull one finger across your cheeks)
I keep it very close at hand (pat the pocket)
In a most convenient place.
I'm sure you couldn't guess it (shake your head)
If you guess a long, long while (reach to your pocket again)
So I'll take it out (take "something" out of your pocket)
And I'll put it on (make a smiley shape over your own face)
It's a great big happy smile!

~~~

I hope these give you ideas for things to do with your younglings.

Goodbye, Milo

I haven't a lot to say today, nor am I really in the mood to say anything at all. Milo, our Basenji, went to the vet for the last time today. He was a good dog, and lived a good long life, and he will be missed.

Autumn's chill

Well, after the rain passed, it sure got cold. Really cold, like "see your breath" cold. And everywhere today there's the smell of woodsmoke.

I love that smell. It brings back memories, and it makes me think of long evenings with the family reading aloud or singing and making music together. It makes me think of punkins and jack o'lanterns and roasting turkey or venison and the dance at the high school gym for Harvest Home.

I'm sure most people know that the squashes -- of which the pumpkin is one -- are new-world plants. That is, they came from the Americas, from the Western Hemisphere. But did you know that there were jack o'lanterns long before Columbus (or even Leif Ericsson, or anyone else) "discovered" the new world?

It's true! Back before we were all "civilised", the fall festival symbolised the true "end of the year". Our ancestors watched the sky and the seasons to determine when to plant, when to harvest, when to gather stores for winter, and so on. They didn't have our sophisticated scientific equipment, and they didn't have the laws of physics set down in a text book somewhere, but they knew what they were doing. Toward the end of the moon-cycle that we now call October, the ancient people observed, and worked with, the changes in weather and the world.

Later, people began living in tribes and communities. We know about the long-barrow houses in the British Isles, and we know about the mead-hall communities of the Norse countries, and so on. And of course, any time people interact, they begin to ask themselves questions about the world around them and so on. These early people developed what we now call a "mythology" but is in fact a religion. The wanted explanations of why things happened, how they happened, and that sort of thing, so they looked for answers. Maybe we'd look at their questions and answers now and laugh, but then 10,000 years from now, maybe someone will look at us and laugh too!

Somewhere along the line, the final harvest for the locations north of the equator became associated with the death of the earth for the year, and then with the deaths of family and friends. Eventually, through time and intermingling, that final harvest became what we know as Halloween or Samhaine, and it's still celebrated by many people all over the world. Some people celebrate it as the night of all souls, or all saints, and some people celebrate it as a fire-festival. But regardless of the religious teaching behind it, the holiday has some very old traditions associated with it, which make it both holy and fun!

One of those traditions is the jack o'lantern, and one of the stories that goes with that, is this one. There are a LOT of stories about jack o'lanterns, and some of them mix a "devil" or other figures from non-pagan religions in with the stories. Almost every person will have a version of the story, and some of those versions are not fit for little kids because they're dark and scary and attempt to teach through fear instead of through love. But this is the story my great-grandmother told us:

A very long time ago when the world was younger and so were we, the Sidhe, that the English call the Faeries, decided to leave this land for the Other. But from time to time they visited here because they had kin and friends and clan here, and they loved them, so they came on the quarter days and cross days to make feast and tell stories and harp together.

But the Sidhe didn't want just any stranger walking into their feasting and singing, so they often gathered and gathered their friends, in the hidden places and it's said they would take revenge in a playful way on those who sought to disturb them.

Now about this time there lived a lad named Jock. Jock was the fairest lad you ever saw, he was tall and he was strong, and he had hair like an otter's pelt, and eyes like the leaves on the oak. But Jock had a fault. He was lazy, and would spend all manner of time avoiding work, if he could. Not for him ploughing and planting! Not for him harvest and thresh! Not for him anything but fun and the peaty taste of the whisky he brewed away up in the hills, and the dancing and the singing and the fun.

Jock's mother sighed and put her back into her work alone, and if any asked, she would always say, "Let the lad have his fun, soon enough he'll be an old one."

One year as evening fell on Samhaine, Jock decided he'd find a party of the Sidhe. After all, they were known for their dancing and singing and drinking and fun, so what better people to join for the night's feasting than they? But the moon was dark that night, and there were no stars to see, so Jock took a turnip and hollowed it out and hung it on a string, then put his candle inside it to protect it from the cold, cold wind of the night at year's end. Then he kissed his mother where she sat worn out from the week's work by her peat fire, and slammed the door as he went out into the night.

"Ah, me," his mother sighed. "Tis a shame and no mistake that my fine lad canna think of aught but his fun. He needs a lesson and that's sure!"

... And someone heard her!

Jock went out into the woods to an oak he knew, thinking surely, the Sidhe would hold their party there. Sure enough, as he approached, he heard singing and harping and laughter, but just as he got close enough to see the flash of jewels and the flicker of fire, all went dark, and the Sidhe vanished away!

Well, thought Jock, I know where a rowan grows. Surely there will be Sidhe feasting there! So holding his turnip-candle before him, Jock went through the woods to the rowan tree. Sure enough, as he approached, he heard singing and harping and laughter, but just as he got close enough to see the flash of jewels and the flicker of fire, all went dark, and the Sidhe vanished away!

Well, thought Jock, I know where a thorn tree grows. Surely there will be Sidhe feasting there! So holding his turnip-candle before him, Jock went through the woods to the thorn tree. Sure enough, as he approached, he heard singing and harping and laughter, but just as he got close enough to see the flash of jewels and the flicker of fire, all went dark, and a hand took his arm!

Jock struggled and twisted but even his strength was no match for the strength of the man who held him, and at last he gave over fighting and said, "Who are you? What do you want with me!"

And the Sidhe man said, "I am Aengus Og, and I want to know why three times you have disturbed my people and their friends at their feasting!"

"But I only wanted to join you," Jock protested.

"Join us, eh?" said Aengus Og, that is Fair Angus the way the English say it. "You can join us, right enough! Light your candle and you can join us, by leading us away to some place where we can feast in peace and undisturbed!"

So trembling, Jock lit his turnip-candle again, and all the Sidhe fell into procession behind him. Jock led them first to a clearing by a stream.

"Too damp!" cried the Sidhe. "Find a better place!"

So Jock led the procession, showing the way with his little turnip lantern on through the night, up on the high ben where the wind blew.

"Too windy!" cried the Sidhe. "Find a better place!"

So Jock, tired and weary, his teeth chattering in his head, led the procession, showing the way with his little turnip lantern on through the night, to a fine cave on the side of the mountain.

"Too dark!" cried the Sidhe. "Find a better place!"

So Jock, tired and weary, cold and hungry, led the procession, showing the way with his little turnip lantern, on through the night, and on, and on, and on, with each place he found not good enough, and all greeted with cries of "Find a better place!"

At last he had led them all over the land of his clan and his chief, and could find no place that met their approval. The candle burned down inside his turnip, and he was fainting from cold and weariness, and still the Sidhe were not satisfied with any place he showed them. Desperate now, Jock led the company to his mother's cottage and her little farm.

"This is the last place I ken!" he cried to the Sidhe, before they could say, Too wet, or Too cold, or Too windy, or Too dark, or anything else.

"This is the best place of all, Jock of the turnip lantern" said Aengus Og. "For this is your home and your hearth, and your mother waiting patiently for you. I hope you will remember this, Jock, and I hope you will stop your wanderings and roamings and help your mother. See what a fine cottage this is, see what fine fields you have, see what a strong cow you have -- and all through your mother's work, and none of your own!"

Jock trembled, because Aengus Og looked so stern and harsh, and Aengus went on. "You are always off to play and always off to dream. Instead of following a lantern all the night long, you should follow your mother and help her at her work. Every year now we will come to you here, and you will take your lantern and lead us here to your home and your mother, and we will bring meat and drink and feast here. And if you have worked hard and made your mother toil less, then every year we will give you a golden coin for each cycle of the moon, when you have led us to our feast." Then Aengus frowned, and if he was bonny when he smiled, he was terrible when he did not. "And if you have not helped your mother, and minded your manners and done your chores, then you will lead us all the night long, with never a bite or a sup, as you have done tonight!"

"I will," Jock promised. "I will that, I will help my mother, I will guide your procession!"

And then Jock's mother brought out food and drink and her own harp from the corner, and the Sidhe made merry for the night.

And Jock became a good man, who held house well and worked his mother's fields, and tended his mother's cow. He cut the peat when he should, instead of roaming off up the mountain. He brought fish for the table instead of dreaming over his hook all day.

And every year, on Samhaine, he led the Sidhe around the village and into his mother's house, and every year they feasted and gave blessing on Jock and his mother. And every year, the people of his village could see him go by, with his turnip lantern bobbing and flickering, as he led the Sidhe to their feasting place.

Rain!

Wowie! It's a good thing I enjoyed the sunshine yesterday, because last night, the storms moved in.

It rained, and it rained, and it rained .... As A.A. Milne says in Winnie the Pooh.

And my favourite little rain chant:
The rain is raining all around
It falls on field and tree.
It rains on the umbrellas here
And on the ships at sea!

Rain always makes me smile. Icy cold or soft and warm, little misty dribbles or pounding driving drops, it's all good.

But rain also always makes me think, so here's some of the stuff I thought of today!

• A few drops of essential oil in the toilet reservoir, or a little liquid potpourri; smells good!
• Inexpensive mild or unscented lotion, with some lavendar leaves crushed into it
• Cheapie baskets, or thrift-store baskets, or hand-made honeysuckle vine baskets, with ribbon laced through the weaving or the handles (right now, orange and black and harvesty colour ribbon!)
• Unpick a short seam on a stuffed toy, and push in a few tablespoons of a yummy herb like lavendar, or a dried vanilla bean, or some sage, and then sew it back up; or do the same with a throw-pillow
• Clean one closet, top to bottom, side to side. Pack up seasonal clothes; sort out charity or yard-sale items; cut up favourite but unwearable clothes for quilt blocks to use later as bed covers, placemats, or even pot holders

Have a lovely rainy day!

October is Breast Cancer Month

I'd like to tell you a little story.

In 1998, on a summer afternoon, I found a lump the size of a US dime in my right breast, near the underarm side, when I was showering. I immediately called the doctor and was scheduled for an ultrasound and mammogram the following Monday.

By that Monday, the lump was the size of a US quarter. It was fairly hard to find even on ultrasound because it was against the chest wall, and buried in layers of muscle. I've always had good upper body strength, but that very strength made it hard for them to find the lump.

Eleven days later, I had a biopsy with excision, which means that they took out as much of the lump as they could find, and then checked it in the lab.

When I woke, the resident who had assisted with the procedure said, "You did have a walnut-sized lump there, and I don't really like the look of it, but we're going to do what we have to do."

I was astonished. I'd done everything right. There was no history of this on my mother's side of the family. I'd never taken birthcontrol pills or any other hormones. I ate right, I was active, I didn't smoke much, I'd nursed my baby for almost two years. I checked my breasts every day in the shower. How could this happen? How could it grow from dime to walnut in a total of 16 days from the time I found it?

The results of the biopsy came back; the cancer was already in end-stage, and had spread not only into the lymph nodes on the right side of my body, but also into muscle tissue.

At my next consultation -- by now it was September -- there was not only the head of the oncology department, there was also a legal aide and a chaplain present, because, as they informed me, I would need to make a will, since I would be dead by December.

I looked at the three doctors, the paralegal, and the chaplain, and I said "Fuck you, I am not going to die."

It was the first time I had ever used that word -- outloud or otherwise.

A treatment plan was devised, including chemotherapy, surgery with immediate reconstruction, chemotherapy, radiation, and chemotherapy again.

I consulted with the reconstructive surgeon and tried to explain my lifestyle and why I wanted the reconstruction done a certain way. I had assumed she listened.

I consulted with the oncology team and reviewed the drugs they'd chosen, including Taxol, which was a drug I was familiar with as a pharmacist. What I didn't realise at the time was that the treatment they'd planned -- in response to my rather pungent comment at the first consult -- was so aggressive that they had needed to get special authorisation to use the dosage they planned, because it was so very high.

Lynk was too young to drive a car at the time, and Cat has epilepsy, so she can't drive at all.

So every 10 days by the calendar, regardless of day of week, I made the two-hour drive to the hospital, sat for four hours with an IV catheter in my arm, to have poison run into my body. The IV cocktail consisted of diphenhydramine to help combat nausea and the horrendous headaches caused by the chemotherapeudics, as well as normal fluids to help with dehydration. And then I drove home.

I'd get nauseated just as the drugs began to flow, then I'd get sleepy from the benadryl, then I'd wake up a bit and feel itchy all over, inside my skin. Then I'd get some orange juice (shoving the IV pump computer around with me) and then they'd finish the drip, and I'd smile and say Thanks, and drive home. By the time I'd pull up to the house, I'd have a headache so bad that I could barely think or do anything beyond the automatic acts of habit.

The day after chemo would be worse. I'd be so ill that sometimes I'd actually wet the bed rather than get up and walk an entire 10 steps to the potty in my own bathroom. The second day would be better, and things would ease off a little at a time, and just as I felt all right, it would be the 10th day -- and back I would go.

I had to discuss breast cancer with my 13 year old daughter. I had to explain it. I had to reassure her but prepare her for the "just in case" scenario.

I had to discuss it with my best friend Cat, and explain it, and reassure but prepare her, too.

After the second chemo visit, all food began to taste like dog feces smells. I am not exaggerating for dramatic effect, that's a fact. The smell of any food cooking made me violently ill, not only with nausea but with a stabbing headache. I ate primarily bacon, carrots, orange juice, and coffee, until nearly Thanksgiving. Cat and Lynk would try to do what they could to cook when I wasn't around, since I could eat, just not bear to smell the cooking. Sometimes what they fed me would stay down and sometimes it didn't. I took iron tablets and a women's multivit, and smiled.

Three days after the fourth chemo appointment, my hair fell out -- all at once. That was one of the most traumatic things that EVER happened to me. I was 36 years old, and my hair was coppery, browny, silvery -- and to my waist. It fell out. That was the only time I cried, and I did it alone, out in the woods, leaning against one of a pair of cedar trees that we call the Sisters.

Two days later, the REST of my hair fell out. Think about that. I mean all my hair, body hair, leg hair, underarm hair, eyebrows and eyelashes. I couldn't even go outdoors without dark glasses, partly because there was nothing protecting my eyes from wind, but mostly because nothing protected them from even winter sunshine.

Then, because chemo strips all fast growing cells indiscriminately, the lining of my intestines and mouth vanished, and my mouth and gums were further weakened by the iron stripping that occurs, since "fast growing cells" also means bone marrow and red blood cells for iron transport. My teeth loosened and came out. Then the lining of my vagina vanished. I was in absolutely incredible pain, as the vaginal walls literally stuck to one another and tore each time I moved.

At the end of October, the first round of chemo was over, and I had three weeks clear, on high doses of iron, prior to my bilateral radical mastectomy surgery. The surgery itself went well, but the reconstructive "surgeon" hadn't actually listened to me, had dis-counted my own knowledge of my body's ability to heal (I'd surprised other practitioners in the past with speed of healing; I'm fast) and had dis-counted my statements about my lifestyle and my own medical knowledge and experience. But at least I did wake up with breasts, and I believed the "surgeon" when she told me they'd settle and my body fat would take over. They had taken both breasts, some chest tissue, some back tissue, all the lymph nodes on my right side, tissue from my right arm, and even some tissue from down my flank, just to be sure everything was gone. Even at that, I was informed, they weren't sure they had gotten everything, and they weren't entirely sure it had been worth it anyway. Staff at KU could certainly use some training in patient interaction, I remember thinking that, fuzzily, because I wasn't even all the way out of the anaesthetic yet.

I made them let me leave the day before Thanksgiving. However excellent the Kansas City Missouri Veteran's Hospital is -- and it is SUPERB -- the same can't be said for the University of Kansas Medical Center. That is the worst hospital I have ever been in, with the worst nursing care, and the least competent physicians and surgeons -- and it is dirty. So by the third day, I wanted out of that place. It had nothing to do with the fact that some yuppy female was in there having cosmetic surgery, and cried -- I kid you not -- non stop, all the time she was awake, and screamed -- no, I'm not exaggerating -- every time she wanted a nurse.

So, a neighbor (also a breast cancer patient, and also a medical practitioner) took time off work and came to pick me up and bring me back to the farm. I had drains that I was supposed to take care of, but they were positioned in such a way that I couldn't reach the ones in my back -- so every morning after her shift, this same neighbor came and took care of the drains. Why? Because KU had "forgotten" to put in a request to the VA to authorise home care. The neighbor realised this about Sunday (I was really sort of out of it) and she called the VA herself, ranted about KU, and demanded that home care be provided. The VA had a nurse out to the farm the following day.

I healed, not as quickly as I'm accustomed to, but faster than the doctors had thought I would. I'd been fitted for dentures and they'd arrived, so I actually enjoyed Yule that year.

I'd had horrendous headaches and body aches. The VA oncology nurses and I decided that this was actually withdrawal from the chemo drugs -- just like withdrawals from recreational drugs. The VA nurses also noted down other things that no one had ever mentioned -- the vaginal issue, the short term memory loss and gaps. Prior to my insistence that these things be tracked and studied not just in me, but in all cancer patients, it had been assumed that this was due to the "emotional stress" of a "catastrophic illness", but as they tracked this, they discovered that the chemo drugs themselves could interfere with brain function and could strip even brain cells.

But on Boxing Day, since I was by then recovered from the surgery, I started chemo again.

Every 10 days, regardless of day of week and weather -- and let me tell you, Missouri winters can be capricious, either snowy and frozen, or rainy and warm -- in the same day! Every 10 days.

I remember at some point, someone mentioning that I should be grateful I'd lost my hair, and not my life. That is seriously the closest I have ever come to killing another woman in cold blood. I can't explain why, but the loss of my breasts was bad -- the loss of four feet of hair was devastating.

But I didn't, and I drove myself, every 10 days, to the appointments, and drove myself home, and went back to sometimes not even being able to get out of bed, not being able to taste anything but a metallic dog-shit flavour to everything, losing the hair that'd started to regrow, and being so tired I literally couldn't take care of my family sometimes.

That lasted until spring, and then I had another four-week break, prior to starting radiation therapy. One thing they don't tell you about that little treatment is, they are going to make PERMANENT tattoes in your chest to mark the grids for focusing the Xrays. To this day, I still have a couple of those horrible little black dots on my skin. And it HURTS, it's not like a regular tattoo. I can deal with pain, but I almost jumped off the table with EACH of the 16 dots.

And then, every day, six days a week, for six weeks, I drove the two hours to lie for 15 minutes under deadly radiation.

After 5 days I had burns. After 9 days I had blisters the size of my palm on my chest, neck, upper arm, underarm, breast, and even on my back! Even I don't want to contemplate what my insides must have looked like at that point.

The burns hurt to the point where I'd take off my shirt to drive home. I didn't give a damn if I got stopped, either, because even cloth touching those burns was more than I could take.

That ended, finally. But I was sicker from the radiation than I had been from the chemo, and my hair fell out again. And I was lucky to keep any food down by then, but Lynk and Cat kept feeding me, so I kept eating.

I had another four week break, and then I had another six weeks of chemotherapy.

My immune system was so compromised at that point that I wasn't even allowed to attend school events for Lynk, so Mrs. Lloyd, the mother of one of Lynk's best buddies, who was also a teacher at this small country school, well, Mrs. Lloyd took Lynk to school events, and helped Cat so that she could go too, so that SOMEONE would be there for Lynk's special moments.

Then I had nipples created for my breasts, but the funny thing was, when the VA surgeons saw what the KU "surgeon" had done, the first words out of the mouth of the poor inexperienced resident? "My god, what did they do to her!" Then he blushed and apologised. I told him, "Honey, you hit the nail on the head."

And then, one year to the day from the time I found the dime-sized lump, it was over.

I hadn't died when they said I would.

I hadn't lost weight and become dangerously malnourished because my family wouldn't let me.

My hair was coming back again.

Two years ago, I got into the hands of a wonderful plastic surgeon at the VA. He undid all the damage that the "surgeon" from KU did.

Today, I have nice breasts. I've got hair, though it's only to the middle of my back even now, and it's a bit different colour.

Tomorrow I will be 46 years old.

I wasn't even supposed to make it to 36.

Pets, Pets, Pets

Visions and Biddy, having some fun with a shipping box

I got to thinking about pets in general this week, and about how sometimes people just really don't know what they're getting into with various animals.

So...

What Pet Is Right?

Where do you live?

City apartment, suburban home, country house, farm?

If you live in a city apartment or flat, you may have to pay a large pet deposit for pets such as dogs or cats. Cage animals may be more appropriate. These include animals like Sugar gliders, Hamsters, Ferrets, Birds (no, none of them smell, if properly cared for. I've had all of them, and they don't smell bad.)

Tropical fish, Goldfish, Salamanders (no, they don't cost a fortune, but keeping aquaria healthy does take some work)

Snakes, Lizards (no, they don't HAVE to have live food, and they are easy to care for, but remember, snakes never stop growing, and all reptiles can have skin issues)

If you live in a house, or on a farm, your scope for pets is a little larger. You may find that dogs and cats are just the thing for your family. Just remember, cats and dogs are cats and dogs. They're not mini-humans, and however smart they may be, the DO have hard-coded instincts.

One side note for farm parents -- be careful of children who become attached to livestock. It does happen. If it happens in your household, you're going to have to make a decision -- do you butcher or auction the animal as usual or do you keep it as a pet? While it's true that chickens and calves and piglets and kids are raised for the table, it is sometimes also true that a child becomes attached to an animal. Think about this NOW, and try to work out how you'll deal with it, if it happens.

Does anyone have any allergies?

If you have allergies to pet dander, then you may not want furry pets. If you're allergic to "everything out there" then even an aquarium might not be a good idea for you, because there is always algae in a healthy aquarium, and it can become airborne, no matter what. You may find that insects, tarantulas, or reptiles will work better for you.

How old are our children, if any?

Some pets just aren't right for very young kids. Anything that might bite if handled roughly, might not be a good plan with very young kids, because they aren't quite careful enough -- they're still learning to control their motor functions, including their fingers and hands.

Some cats do great with kids. So do some dogs. But some dogs don't appreciate children, particularly if the dog was in the family first! And some dogs take almost as much care as a child to begin with, so think carefully before you get a dog or cat.

Pet Training
Cage animals don't have to be trained, obviously. And most of them aren't quite intelligent enough to be trained.

Housetraining
However... Cats, Dogs, and Pot-belly pigs, can, and should, be housetrained. If you provide a clean sandbox, and feed your cat at set times, then within an hour of feeding, the cat will be ready to use the box. If he starts to squat anywhere other than the box, pick him up and put him in it. Eventually, in about three days, even the dumbest kitten figures it out. If you have older cats, they may actually help train the newer cat.

Dogs and pigs, the most common pets, are even easier to housetrain. Feed the pet at specific times. Within an hour of eating, the pet will show signs of needing to go out. They'll sniff around, they may whine, they'll go to the door if they can smell outside. We've trained our dogs to scratch the door when they need "ou'side", and we've found that the older dogs will teach newer dogs the same thing. Pigs will also do this, though of course they make a funny little grunty noise, instead of whining.

Leash, Come, Sit, and Stay

You may or may not be able to teach a cat these things. However, if you live in town and the cat goes outside, you will still need to teach the cat to accept a leash and collar or harness -- for the cat's own safety.

Dogs (and pigs) can be trained, and have to be. First, put the collar on the dog or pig, and let him wear it for an hour or so -- and do nothing else. After an hour, clip the leash on, hold the end, and again do nothing else. After about ten minutes more, you can begin teaching Come.

And that's ALL you do for the first week. The second week, you teach Sit, and keep working on Come. The third week you teach Stay, and keep working on Sit and Come. The fourth week you teach Heel on the lead, and keep working on Come, Sit, and Stay.

There are literally thousands of pet training sites out there. Just keep in mind, animals are not people. They can be taught to interact with people, and other animals, but their hard-coded instincts are part of the reason we keep pets. We like the fact that dogs are protective, cats are social, and pigs like company. That's why we choose those pets. But the fact is, that protective dog might frighten or bite if not trained. That social cat might decide the middle of the floor is a good litterbox. That company-loving pig may decide your son's bed is the only place for a pig to sleep. So train your pet, gently but firmly, and remember, do not ever strike a pet.

And again, for farm families, try to teach that yes, some animals are there to provide food, and that a heifer may get agressive if her calf is threatened, a sow may bite if she thinks someone is going to hurt her pigs, and even a chicken can get pretty mean if provoked.

Pet Grooming
All pets have to be groomed. Some animals do this themselves -- hamsters, birds, sugar gliders. But some pets need our help.

Snakes and other reptiles, for instance, need something slightly scratchy at least once a year, so they can wiggle and squirm out of their old skins.

Fish don't generally need much grooming, but you may have to add "slime" or "ick-medicine" to their water from time to time. This keeps them from getting infections, and keeps their scales and skin healthy.

Pigs need to be bathed monthly, and may need to be brushed periodically with a soft-bristle brush. Their hooves need to be checked, too, and trimmed -- professionally -- to keep them healthy.

Dogs and cats, of course, have to be brushed at least weekly, even for short haired cats, and dog breeds like chihuahuas. That helps loosen old, dead skin, and old, dead hair -- just like brushing your own hair does for you. Brushing them also helps keep shed fur off your furniture and out of the air.

They also need their nails trimmed, very carefully. If your dog or cat has "dark" nails, and you can't easily see the little pink line that is the network of tissue and blood vessels -- then don't trim. Let the vet do it.

Dogs and cats shouldn't be bathed much more often than monthly. Their skins, and bodies, aren't used to that, and they'll get dry itchy skin, and be uncomfortable.

Dogs, cats, and pigs all need flea-tick-mosquito protection. You can buy this over the counter, or you can buy it from your vet, but either way, follow the application directions EXACTLY.

Pet Care including Feeding, Exercising, and The Vet!

Almost any good commercial food will work for your pet. Remember, though, younger animals may need additional vitamins, and older animals may need some supplements. If you're not sure whether your pet needs such things, then check with your vet.

Cage animals need exercise. Small furry cage animals need a wheel to run in, or plastic roam-balls to run about in. Fish need enough room to swim freely. Birds need enough space to open their wings, even if they don't actually fly.

Cats need room in the house, or safe places outdoors to run, climb, and lie in the sun. (Yes, for cats, that does count as exercise.)

Dogs and pigs need space to run and play, jump and chase, and frisk around, even if it must be at the end of a long leash.

When you travel in a car with your pet, whether it's a few miles to a play area, or a trip to the vet, or anything else, then you need to be sure your pet is safe. Cage animals need to have their cage cover over the cage, and the cage needs to be fastened into a back seat with the seat belt.

Larger animals need to be in appropriately sized carriers, which also need to be fastened in securely. It is NOT a kindness to let your nervous cat or unhappy dog roam loose in the car. What if the animal gets in the way of driving? What if you have to stop suddenly? You wouldn't let a child bounce around loose in the car, so don't let your animal do it either, for their safety and for yours.

Keep your pet under control at the vet's. Just because other people let their animals and kids misbehave, that doesn't mean yours should. Keep your pet leashed or confined. That way you are still in control, even if other pet owners are not.

If your pet needs treatment or medication, then be sure you understand exactly what the vet wants you to do, and be sure you follow your vet's instructions. If you don't get it -- ASK! You're paying the vet for his services, and he's more than happy to explain and make sure you're comfortable!

Unless you have animals registered with certain breeding clubs, consider spaying or neutering your dog, cat, or pig. (Even rats, hamsters, sugar gliders, and ferrets can be spayed or neutered, by the way.)

And one last thing....

Over the years, I've discovered that some of the best cats and dogs don't have fancy pedigrees or high prices... They come from the kennel at the vet's, or from the animal shelter. They are often some of the most loveable, most intelligent, most wonderful pets to be had. The two best herding dogs I EVER had, were vet-mutts. Yet, they were so good at what they did that people offered me good money for both -- which I refused, of course; I need my dogs!

So, if you decide that a pet isn't feasible for you, you might instead consider contributing a little money to your local shelter.

Pets!

On the back of Cat's neck, hitching a ride, is Scooter, the daddy. And, hitching a ride on Scooter's back is Skippy, the little girl joey.

This is Scrabble, the mommy glider, having breakfast.











Well! The internet almost works. I even called our ISP to find out if they knew what was up. They did, but alas, they couldn't do anything; seems this is a midwest-wide issue. Frustrating!
However, things will get better, I'm sure!

Since a lot of people wonder what a "sugar glider" is, I decided to post a couple of photos of Cat's gliders. Sugar Gliders are little animals about the size of a hamster. But, they're not mammals, they're marsupials. This means that while they give live birth, their babies are very tiny, and the baby, called a "joey", climbs up the mother's fur to get into her pouch, where it can nurse and grow fur and develope. Sugar gliders have long tails, and soft, fluffy fur. They have hands, and "hands for feet", and they have opposable thumbs just like you and me. And they have one more interesting thing about them -- They can fly! Well... They can't really fly. What they do is glide from place to place, by spreading their arms and legs out and stretching open a flap of skin between their arms and their legs, a little like a flying squirrel.




In the wild, gliders eat bugs, little eggs, little animals like shrews or tiny mice, fruit, flower petals, and flower sap and honey, or "sugar". Pet gliders eat basically the same things, but of course, their human friends provide their food. They bond closely with their human caregivers and even if there are several gliders in a household, they very much need human interaction.
Gliders come in any colour you can imagine, from the soft greys, like the gliders in the photos above, to pure white non-albino, to reddish, to well, anything! They are very social animals, and very sweet, and have very definite personalities. They play just like a child, monkey, dog, or cat, and unlike a ferret or a hamster, they actually bond with the person who cares for them. They can see colours, and their favourite colour is red or pink.





Most people have what are called "glider pouches" which are made of soft fluffy fabrics, and usually have a string that hangs round a person's neck. The gliders curl up inside the pouch and sleep or play.




You can find out more about sugar gliders online.

Door Snakes!

It's just barely starting to get cold. I love the cold season; it always means special things and exciting holidays.

But where I live, cold weather can be a problem, so one of the things I do is make "Door Snakes". These are little "tubes" that lay at the bottom of doors to keep the drafts out. You can buy them, for a pretty hefty chunk of change, or you can be stingy like me, and make them!

First, measure across the bottoms of the doors these will be used on.

Now, go through your scrap material, old clothes, whatever, and find some fabric. You will need a piece of fabric that is 10" x (the width of the door) + 8". You can use 1 piece of fabric, or you can sew a lot of little scraps together to get this size.

You need 18" of ribbon, cute string, or whatever else tickles your fancy, to tie the ends of your snakes.

You need old grocery bags, batting, old stuffing, or cut up fabric scraps for stuffings.

Now, lay out your piece of fabric, right sides together, in a long rectangle. Sew down the long side, and then turn and sew back. Turn it right side out.

Now you have a tube. Stuff it with your stuffins! Pack the stuffing fairly tight, from each end, until it's as wide as the door. Remember to leave about 4" free on each end.

*If you are completely NOT into sewing, then you take a piece of cloth that is 20" wide instead. You put your stuffings on it toward one long edge. Then you roll it up like a burrito or a sushi roll, and tie the ends as below*

Take your ribbon or string and gather the end of the snake tube. Wrap the ribbon twice round the tube, and pull tight, then tie a hard knot, then a bow. Repeat on the other side.

You're done!

These can be tossed in the washer BUT if you stuffed your snake with plastic bags DO NOT put it in the dryer unless you un-stuff it first!

Rainy Days

Wow! Yesterday was a wild day for weather. About noon, it got dark as night, and then there was an awwwwwwesome light show, followed by a lot of pounding rain. Nothing like those poor folks over in Georgia are getting, but definitely unexpected. It's naturally too wet now to set the steps for the back door, but ah well, it'll dry.

But I like rainy days. They always make me think some, and with it being fall anyway, and feeling the "cleany bug" start to nibble at me, I was thinking a little about clutter and organising and cleaning.

So, after drying off two dogs, demudding an escaped kitten, drying off the first dog again, and then doing my morning workout and deciding it wasn't worth mopping floors either yesterday or today, I thought I'd sort through the stuff I keep house with.

Cleaning Supplies

Don't get silly about household cleaners. Yeah, you can use ammonia and old newspapers to clean windows. And you can sweep the carpet with a broom. And you can walk to town. And you can find a surgeon who'll do a procedure without anaesthesia!

For goodness sake why? For the most part, you DO NOT save money or time, either one, with those ridiculous "Make it at home! Make it out of your pantry!" cleaning formulas. You MAY do something helpful for the environment, but even that is debatable; cleaning solutions, even "organic" ones, are still cleaning solutions, and if they kill germs, they kill ... hmmm Things other than germs too, perhaps?

You may end up spending more on making them and finding a container to put them in, you create clutter by having to hold onto "things you're going to make into cleaning products", and then you waste time using them, because they do not, in fact, clean as well as commercial formulations, so you generally have to keep working harder to clean with them. I've been keeping house for 40+ years, and I've tried everything, from every "make it yourself" post or blog or site I've ever seen, and in the end, my time is too valuable to waste on products, home or purchased, that make me work harder.

Now, this doesn't mean you shouldn't look for "green" alternatives, or that you shouldn't experiment with make-it-yourself things, and it doesn't mean you shouldn't have fun making some things, like personal grooming stuff, for yourself. But it does mean, don't clutter yourself out of house and home, and don't spend all your time WORKING instead of PLAYING. It's supposed to be fun and rewarding to be a home-maker. It isn't supposed to drive you into insanity!

Most households don't need a lot of fancy specialised cleaning products anyway. Also, while some brand name products really are better than generic store-brands, that's not always the case. They generally have the same formula, but one has better advertising and a higher price.

Try things out. If your family is allergic to one kind of laundry soap, try another. If the pine-cleaner that costs half what the name brand does, can do a great job on your floors, then why buy the name brand? And as for the paper towels, just buy the cheap ones. The whole point of paper towels is that you're throwing the dirt away.

If you have environmental concerns, then look for "Green" products. They will be labelled clearly, and while they may cost a little more, they may be worth it to your conscience and your sense of what is right.

You really don't need much more than this list of things to keep your house clean and sanitary. In fact, the more stuff you have, the more stuff you'll feel compelled to use -- or feel guilty about if you can't or don't use it. So just get rid of it. The idea is to save money, time, and headaches, so you can get on with the fun part of life, like quilting, squirting your kids with a giant water pistol, making love to your partner, or daydreaming!

Most households need:

• Vacuum cleaner, bags, and belts
• Carpet cleaner, belts, and cleaning solution
• Broom and Dustpan
• Mop and bucket
• Floor cleaner
• Bleach
• Laundry detergent
• Fabric softener
• Spray cleaner for upholstery
• Dishwasher soap -- powder, liquid, little ball-bubbles
• Dishwashing liquid
• All-purpose spray cleaner
• Window Cleaner
• Pre-moistened dusting cloths (this may be one "make your own" that works; use lemon oil on old soft cloth; keep it in a sealed jar.)
• Bathroom cleaner and Throw-away Toilet Brush
• Oven Cleaner, or Coarse Salt set aside ONLY for this
• Paper towels
• Gloves
• Trash Can Liners (some folks simply recycle plastic grocery bags for this)
• Rag Bag
• Bug Spray
• Drain cleaner (But if you're scared of drain cleaners -- see below)
• Light Bulbs
• Batteries ranging from watch-sized to the 6-volt flashlight size
• Flashlight
• Kitchen-size Trash bags
• Auto detergent (But mild dishwashing liquid works just fine)
• Chrome Cleaner
• Upholstery cleaner
• Car wax

You may want to get a plastic caddy with a handle, or a little toolbox. In this you put the wipes, the spray cleaner, the bathroom cleaner, the air-freshener, your gloves, a few trash can liners, and the paper towels, so that you can carry it all with you easily as you go through the house.

Get a second plastic caddy and put the drain cleaner, light bulbs, bug spray, trash bags, vac bags, and all those packages of odd-sized batteries, into that. You can put the flashlight in there, too.

Car Stuff can be kept in a small plastic caddy or small tool box. It usually includes that fancy sponge your partner fell in love with and that special nozzle for the hose, too, so keep those in this caddy, so you can find them. It IS important to take care of your car's insides and body, just as important as taking care of the engine.

Stand the broom and mop upside-down in the mop bucket, and put the dustpan in there too. Hang the extra belts for the vacuum cleaner, on the handle of the machine, and do the same with any extra belts for the carpet-cleaner gadget.

Don't mess with stain pretreatments for laundry. Just pour a little liquid detergent on the stain. If that doesn't work, neither will a pre-treater -- and it's more likely the pre-treater will fade or ruin the fabric. The laundry detergent, bleach, and fabric softener should be kept near the washer and dryer.

Fabric softener sheets may be more environmentally smart; the cardboard box they come in will break down much faster than the plastic bottle the liquid is in. Slip the box of sheets into a heavy freezer bag to keep them from losing their scent and softener properties; some people use a "dryer ball" instead, but the appliance guys I've used for years tell me that they LOVE dryer-ball people... Because they have to call for repairs so often. Same with "washer dispenser ball" people. What the heck, hang your clothes outside! Eliminate both!

Pre-moistened dusting cloths really are cheaper than a can and a rag, and you throw the dirt away; however, slip the package or cannister into a heavy freezer bag, to keep them from drying out. If you compost, do NOT put these wipes (or any kind of wipes) in the compost.

Bathroom cleaner and Throw-away Toilet Brush -- Yes, throw-away brush or brush head. Do you really want that germy thing sitting around your house?

Don't goof with feather dusters, even the new "instant" kind put out by the cleaning products companies. Nothing will really make the dust stick to something like that. All you will do is put it in the air, and your wipes will do a much better job on surfaces, while your "old sock with cleaner on it" slipped over your hand, will do much better on blinds and dust-catchers.

Paper towels are so you can throw the dirt away, not keep it around; make your own by shredding "waste paper" or junk mail; add a little water, put it in the blender, then spread it on the back of a cookie tray, fairly thinly, and let it dry.

Trash Can Liners are a must, unless you love washing trash cans daily. Some folks simply recycle plastic grocery bags for this

The Rag Bag is self-explanatory. It should be a small (yes, SMALL) mesh-type laundry bag or drawstring bag, and when you cut up something cloth because it's worn out, you put it in the rag-bag. These are rags that you throw away after you're done, and you never keep more "old rags" around than will fit in your rag-bag. Hang it on a large plastic-coated cuphook that you screwed into the wall by the washer, to keep it visible but out of the way.

Drain Cleaner -- If like me, you are scared of the lye and horribly caustic chemicals in a drain cleaner, then don't buy that stuff. Instead, if you have a cloggy drain, first pull out everything you can with your fingers. Onion skins, strands of hair, artichoke leaves, whatever. Then pour 1/2 cup of baking soda into the drain. Pour 1 cup of vinegar, slowly, into that, and let the natural chemical reaction work. You can add more vinegar, or a little water at a time, till the clog is gone. Then run quite a bit of cold water so that the drain clears.

Anyway, that's the stuff I use around the house here. I hope it helps you figure out what you need to keep around, and what you want to keep around.

Now, I'm going to go curl up with a book and a cuppa. You should too!